Monday, 2 November 2009

Let's all be adult about it

Though we come from the same university and studied on the same course, we eventually ventured out in similar profession but wearing different hats. Different hats with different working environment, clients and views.

It's plain obvious that our views may not be at eye level for our exposure and experience varies. But does that mean we can't be friends and be adult about it?

This became an issue. When I first read it, my first thought was "you got to be kidding me?". I was called to the BAR before I held the position where I'm at now. My exposure while in practice was mainly litigation. I know how difficult it is to locate a missing file. I understand the agony of going back and forth to court just to find a missing file. I also understand how it feels to be ridiculed by the court clerk and presiding judge. I understand how frustrating it is to be a litigation practicing lawyer. Really I do because I went through it.

So, when that was posted, I could foresee the comments that would rain through.

Now, I want to try be an un-certified peace maker.

To you, probably what you wrote did happen in your personal knowledge but to understand the real problem would help too i.e. experiencing it first hand. The way to experience it, go through it. Not as someone who sees it at birds eyes view. But really go down and disguise yourself, if you could. Probably things have indeed change. I can't vouch for that for I don't have the experience first hand.

To you, I understand the frustration and anger but IMHO personal attacks is unnecessary. A proper intellectual discourse via proper round table could be more proper perhaps?

I think what both parties are trying to say to each other is basically "you don't understand and see it like how I understand and see it".

So, me brothers and sisters. Let's all be adult about it and say our sorry and take it from there.

Yes, no?

13 comments:

khalid said...

Ca you blame the ppl for 'raining down their comments'????
Do share what u foresee?

shueyluweyduwey said...

comments and feedback from legal practitioners la.

khalid said...

I meant, wut did u foresee wuf be the contents of the said comments and feedback...

two_one said...

Mentang-mentang dia belajar ADR dulu... hehehe... :)

Sasha Lyna said...

ape yg personal attack?x paham lah..seriously..

shueyluweyduwey said...

adam: tak suke tengok orang gaduh.

sha:personal attack to his wife tak perlu kut.i read the thread in fb.saya tak nak cari gaduh dengan siapa siapa.cuma cuba jadi peace maker.like i said, tak suke tengok orang gaduh.

~Serenity~ said...

shuey-is that khalid jiranku?.wah lama tak dgr cite!haha now i can see what is the whole picture all about.setelah membaca blog cerita org gilak,adam n yrs..

well as an ex-liti lwyer yg naik lrt hari2 ke msjid jamek pstu naik pulak van RM2,utk ke court smpai lenguh kaki dan membuat kerja sampingan seperti file search dan filing, lps baca blog adam turut merasakan tempiasnya.tp ia bukan dutujukan kpd semua loyer.

anyways tiap org ada their own perspectives esp in blogging world.n am totally agree with u shuey,let's all be adult about it and say sorry and take it from there.nnti aku nk link la blog adam ni.hehe.

fadiahnadwafikri said...

shue, i believe there was no personal attack directed to her as what sasha wrote was purely factual and not a fallacy.

and one more thing, responding to a statement or defending one's viewpoint does not fall within the category of gaduh, it's purely a form of expression exercise. one must be ready to accept criticism. a note to myself and others, when we write, always be humble in our opinion, that makes a big difference.

shueyluweyduwey said...

aja: adalah setuju.

fadiah: baik lah. saya take note. mungkin gaduh bukan the right term.it is I who feel that there is a slight tense in the atmosphere, that's all. again i stress i'm not saying either party is right or wrong and i most certainly am not siding anyone. everyone is of course entitled to their own opinion.i am also not forcing anyone to say sorry to either party. itu di atas prerogative masing masing. kalau rasa tidak ada apa yang nak mintak maaf. all well and good.im not putting judgment on anyone.okay, this is getting no where and i should not explain myself for fear that it'll be further misinterpreted. and i also agree with u fad, one must be humble when giving opinion.

Sasha Lyna said...

hahhaha..comel lar shuey nie..no harm done n tak rase anyone rase that ure taking sides pun :)

chill and hidup freedom of expression ;)

shueyluweyduwey said...

sasha: yay,u find me comel! =)

Ein said...

tutup je blog, sudah.. :D

shueyluweyduwey said...

ein: rujuk comment selepas post ini. =)