Confused

I remembered when I started working I was a cautious person. I rarely ask questions for fear that I would look stupid.

After a couple of years, I was told informally that it is not wrong to ask questions and raise issues.

But today, I asked questions. I raised issues. Impression I got, non-issue and invalid question.

Hence, confused.

"speak now or forever hold your peace" they say. pfft.

Still wrong. Still ridiculed. Still judged.

Again, confused.

Mom said I'm being too hard on myself. How not too?